Motherhood is the most beautiful and sacred stage in a life of a woman. Most women become excited about it even before becoming one. Being a mother is a pure blessing from God but it carries a lot of pain in it. It is a mixture of joys and pains just like a rainbow. Let's discuss about the pains of motherhood.
1. Increased expenditure. Once you begin to have children, your spending will escalate because children come with a lot of needs and we cannot ignore them because they are necessary. I remember when I had no child,I could manage to save much money for tours and it was something I loved to keep me busy when I was off at work. I used to manage my finances very well and it was very easy for me to make expensive outings,to buy expensive clothes,shoes and hair but after I got pregnant things changed I started buying clothes and other needed things for my incoming baby and it wasn't easy to adjust. Later on I discovered that my expenditure was increased.
2. Balancing responsibilities. This is really a hard stuff. A mother has to go for work, manage a business,manage her home, take care of herself and her husband. This is so draining and most of the marriages and businesses collapse if this is not well handled.
Before I had a child I could manage to report for work on time because it was just my husband and I. Sometimes a baby will do poo when you have already finished preparing him and you are ready to start off,then you start removing the diaper and wipe the baby before giving out another clean diaper or napkin. This is time consuming before it is an emergency.
Talk about the husband expecting a woman to do wifey duties when she is already worked up by the baby. Most men start competing for attention with the baby then at last they see the baby winning the competition because a mother will care more about a baby who is helpless than a grown up man who needs to understand and adjust. This brings tension in homes and most homes shake alot.
There is need for a woman to have time to work on her self but most of the times it doesn't happen because she puts the children first before herself. This makes a woman to look old and unattractive because the time she needs to fix herself is being given to the children.
3. Physical changes. Most women lose their shapes after giving birth because the breasts will sug after breastfeeding children. Sometimes the birth hormones will make a woman to put on weight.
I remember before I had a child I never had a big tummy but after having two children I have a big tummy and it's not looking good on me. I am still struggling to get my old body back but it is nearly impossible.
4. Sleepless nights. These comes from a lot of things, sometimes a baby maybe so much troublesome such that he cries every night and makes the mother not to have enough rest,then during the day the baby will be sleeping while the mother is busy doing this and that.
Sometimes the mother will be having sleepless nights because of thinking too much about how she will provide for the baby. Some women struggle to raise kids because they maybe single parents and jobless,some not into business so life is miserable for them.
Womanhood is never easy,the more reason men need to support and understand their wives and baby Mamas.
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