The truth nobody talks about.

 After being in marriage for over a decade ,I have learnt alot of lessons such that I don't understand why these things are not known the people before getting married. Let's dive into them.

Most people do not know that when they get married they inherit each other's family battles and diseases. At some point I was surprised that my prayer life become difficult and I used to feel so heavy when praying, until I had a revelation that am being fought by my husband's spiritual enemies. He's battles became my battles so I had to increase the gear in prayer and fasting for me to win the battle and continue to grow in my spiritual life.

It is important to check the family you want to get married to because some families are deep into witchcraft and satanism. They may look innocent and loving but it's just the surface that you see until you join them officially that's when you will begin to see and hear what you did not know.

Some families have serious curses and bad luck such that when you join them , your financial, social economical and business life will be reduced to zero. They exert negative energy on you until you become miserable. Some people would wonder why someone lost employment or a huge business opportunity after getting married,it's because that man or woman got married to a person who comes from a cursed family.

Some families have chronic diseases and illness that you can contract through sexual relations and transmit them to your children. Some diseases stay in the fluids and blood of a person. Once you keep on interacting sexually with a person who comes from a family that has transmittable diseases ,then you will start experiencing them and later give birth to children that will be having the same type of diseases.

The good part is when you get married to a person who comes from a blessed family,you will inherit postive energy and things will start going well for you. 

Most people do not know about this and that's the reason they keep on living miserable lives. They keep on wandering without finding the right answer.

After reading this article,someone can be there thinking that, their eyes have opened cause they were wandering what is going on in their lives without understanding the whole thing. It is what it is but there is good news on this.

You can change what you do not like in your marriage by seeking spiritual counselling and praying consistently until you get disconnected from family inherited battles. There's no need to visit shrines of witch doctors because you may worsen the problem. Some family witchcraft are so deep such that some witch doctors can not manage to remove the spells they casted a long time ago ,as a result going to the witch doctor will worsen the situation because those powers will become very angry. 

It's important to seek higher power which is found only in Christ Jesus through repentance, confession and daily surrending of lives. There is nothing that God can not do,he just wants us to trust and obey his words. It is expensive to get help from a witch doctor than from God. God already gave us a free gift of salvation and freedom when he sent his son Jesus Christ to die for us on the cross of Calvary. We just need to trust and believe in the work that he did on the cross for us and our lives will never be the same

Love is a mystery

 My name Lutando Simango ,I come from the Eastern part of Zambia. I was born in 1992 on second of Am a third born in a family of eight. I was brought up from a Christian home and I love to do godly activities.I lost my father when I was just eight years old then after eight years my mother also joined her ancestors and life became miserable for me and my siblings.

Nevertheless I managed complete my secondary school in 2010 and joined society.

I never had any interest in romantic relationships because I was just interested in going to university and become a degree holder. Different men approached me but I was so difficult to convince until I was admitted at one of the biggest and famous university here in Zambia.

In my first year I met a second year student who convinced me to start dating him. At first it sounded awkward but I later started enjoying the relationship. I can confess that the guy was coming from a very poor family compared to were I come from,but he was full of love and gave me the attention I needed.

We used to eat together at any given meal time and it was awesome. We could buy groceries together and share everything we had. He would help me out with assignments and the materials i needed. Everyone in the campus who knew about our relationship believed that we were soulmates. I would do laundry for him and he would iron for me since I loved to wash clothes but never loved to iron them.

We were the talk of the campus until he completed and left for his hometown.

The last year in university was very hard for me because I never had close colleague like him,so I was just praying that I finish and go back to my hometown as well. He was fortunate to start working just after university results came out,so he would shower me with random gifts and money. Our lives were never the same,we started doing business together and bought land for our dream house.

We started building and bought household items. After I completed my program I went back to my hometown and we kept on visiting each other. Until one day, he told me that he's coming with his family to see my people. I was very excited because I really loved the guy. I told my guardians about the news and they were very excited for me. The arranged day came and we dressed in a beautiful chitenge wear we took to a skilled tailor. Marriage negotiations were made and they paid everything.

He never wanted us to have a wedding, just wanted me to join him traditionally and I never liked the idea because I really wanted to put on a wedding dress.

My family started preparing for my Big day because they believed I needed to be sent off to my husband's house with a huge celebration.

A week to my big day ,his young sister called me to tell me that he impregnated some woman at his workplace and I was heartbroken. He tried to make me understand that it was a mistake but I never accepted his apology. I completely disconnected myself from him and started a different life. I began to hate romantic relationships and never wanted to think about what happened to me.

The man refused to get his bride price and kept on bothering me on different numbers but I stood my ground and kept rejecting him. He later found someone and married her while I was still single. People laughed at me because I rejected a man and couldn't get someone to marry me. I kept my faith alive until after 3 years I met my current husband.

After two years of being in marriage,a lot of people started calling me to congratulate me for rejecting him because he became a drunkard and womanizer such that the current wife is contemplating divorce. I thank God that I made a right choice and am the happiest woman ever. God has blessed me with three beautiful children and we are happy and healthy together.

The power of a praying woman

The importance of prayer can never be overlooked in the christian circles but here I want to be specific with the power of a praying woman.

A woman who prays is a system which cannot be easily brought down because she draws strength from the invisible.The devil is scared of a praying woman because he knows the impact of it. Here are some of what happens when a woman prays:

1.A reservoir of spiritual knowledge. A woman who prays is has a capacity to receive more knowledge from God because God entrusts his people with spiritual knowledge for the purpose of thorough communion.

God desires to have an intimate relationship with his people. So when someone becomes available in prayer, God's heart is moved to provide such a person with necessary knowledge so that the closeness to him becomes evident.

2. Role model. She becomes a role model for young ones and other women. A woman who prays has the capacity to influence and lead as an example to other people around her. She lives a life that is admirable to many because she is not found in petty and silly activities in her compound.

There are many women who are not good examples to fellow women or young ones because they are busybodies who have no morals but a woman who prays has a different character which makes her to be a role model.

3. She creates a calm environment. A woman who prays knows how to manage her emotions and is ever peaceful. She is not moody and unnecessary. She knows when to talk and when to keep quiet. When she opens her mouth,she speaks with grace and wisdom. People around her are blessed because she is a peacemaker. Her family calls her blessed and she is full of mercy and goodness.

4. She has a heart for others. A woman who prays takes other people's burden as hers. She bears other people's burden to the extent of praying for them. She reaches out to them with kindness and support. She does nothing of a selfish gain. She considers other people's concerns and she is careful not to hurt them in any way. She knows a best approach towards matters and dealings with people around her. She is a fighter and warrior.she knows how to hold the sword of the spirit and pray results for the people in her reach. Blessed is he who has a privilege to be with a praying woman.

 

The causes of Prostitution with churches in Africa

 In as much as we appreciate the desire for many people to be saved in the ministry of God,it has been noted that many believers are not stable with the churches they go to. You find that one believer is a member to four churches.

It doesn't just occur well when that person move from one church to another and then comes back to their first church. Most church members appear in more than one church register. We are going to discuss the causes of prostitution with churches in Africa.

1. Desperation for miracles. Most believers are desperate to receive instant answer of prayer when they have a pressing issue at hand. It's important to visit men and women of God who can pray results into our lives but If we are desperate for miracles we shall find ourselves in wrong hands. Not everything that glitters is gold.

2. Lack of proper knowledge. Most people have a genuine desire to fellowship with other ministeries but they lack proper guidance on what a genuine fellowship is. Some people rush to change a church then later on discovers it's a fake ministry,then they have to shift to another church.

Most of the churches mushrooming in this century are just for people who are money hungry and who do anything just to earn a living. Some men and women who called themselves prophets,pastors, Bishops, Reverends and apostles do not even understand what the call of God is all about. For them,as long as they can preach then they can start a ministry. This has brought mediocrity in Christianity.

3. Pride and rebellion. Some believers who refuse to be disciplined when they break church rules are fond of moving up and down in different churches. Some spiritual sons and daughters who become rebellious are also fond of running up and down in different churches. This happens because they fail to accept their wrongs and allow discipline to take it's course on them. 

Proverbs says that pride comes before a fall. If a person is too proud to be brought for displine then that person is headed for big trouble ahead cause the bible says that God disciplines the ones he loves,so even for the leaders in church to decide to discipline a church member,we should consider that to be coming from a love point of view.

We all know that the truth hurts but it saves. Better you cry today and rejoice tomorrow than to continue living a wayward life when some people who God placed in your life can displine you 

4. Selfishness. Some people are very selfish to the extent that they cannot give out anything to anyone but expect to be given always. God showed us the way we should live by giving us his only begotten son Jesus Christ. If we are to live in harmony with our fellow brethren,then we have to avoid being creedy. 

We can give out a lot of things to our fellow brethren,even just our time is enough for someone to appreciate but we tend to be very busy with our personal lives and forget to help others. By the time we find ourselves in unfavorable situations,we discover that our fellow brethren will not pay attention to our problems and it will cause us to leave for another church, forgetting we are the problem ourselves. We always want to reap where we did not sow. You can't be selfish and expect your brethren to be near you and help you out everytime you have issues.we need to learn to love each other and bear each other's burden.

5. Being inticed easily. There are people who are notably enticed by anyone or anything around them and they fail to resist such things or people.

Some people love new things hence when they hear that there's a new church in town or a new prophet in the city,they will rush their and become attached to them. The same people will fail to let go of the old church hence making themselves having more than one church.

Elderly men and women are not an exception. It's really embarrassing to hear elderly people calling every Jim and Jack Papa and Mama in the Lord when those people are too young to be their children. We need to be at a church where we can grow in prayer and word and not looking for miracles,signs and wonders everywhere.

The power of music

 Imagine how life without music would be? I have come to realize that music is more than just singing,it's a worship that produces postive energy.

Most people have their lives transformed through music. They are living a different life compared to how they were before they started to listen to certain kind of music.

Now let's dive into what makes music powerful.

1. It unites people across languages and backgrounds. You will find that people will enjoy the sound of a certain song but they don't even know what that song means. I remember one time when a certain African music by the name of Rafiki produced a song which was talking about mourning and because it had a powerful beat,most of us danced to that song. It was too late for us stop dancing by the time we got hold of the meaning.

2.It brings comfort. There are times a person may feel low because of a certain situation or circumstance present in their life then they get to listen to songs that speak life into their predicaments,then they feel comforted and relieved. If someone is a Christian then they are going through hardships then they get to listen to songs that talk about the positive side of hardships, they will begin to feel comforted.

3. It preserves cultures. There is a certain type of music that brings about cultural education. Some musicians make sure they balance their music with all the age groups. They are songs that old people listen to and most of them have a cultural aspect.

4. It influences moods. Sometimes a person can wake up feeling low and then decide to play songs that have postive energy, before they realize it,they find themselves feeling happy and they forget about the issue that made them low. Sometimes again, someone can be in a good mood but just hearing certain songs that produce negative energy,that people will feel sad and their mood will change. It's important to choose a playlist because it influences moods.

5. It brings back memories. I remember there are songs we used to play and dance with my ex boyfriend and whenever I hear then playing,I remember him and just thank God that I am where I am today. 

Some memories are painful and some are beautiful. It just depends with how you lived your life in your past. Whenever I play certain gospel songs,I cry with tears of Joy because I remember the times I was heartbroken and these songs made me strong.

6. It lift spirits. Whenever I want to start praying,I start singing praise songs then later shift to worship songs and before I realize it,I find myself busting into tougues. My spirit is always lifted through listening to musical pieces. Its very important to choose songs that will lift your spirit as you wake up in the morning and be retiring to bed.

7. It teaches alot. Through music a person can learn alot about different things. For example, gospel musicians compose their songs using scriptures,so when you're listening to a particular song it's more like someone is preaching to you.

Secular muscians also teach something in their songs. For example a musician composes a song about how we need to love one another in a marriage relationship. If you listen to it,you will learn something.

8. It tells stories. Some musicians are so creative with their music genres. Some will pick a story and put it into a song and when one is listening to it ,it will be just like someone is telling a story to them. It's important to pay attention to what the composer of the song is trying to communicate.

How to reduce divorce in the world

Marriage is a blessing and a loving relationship that keeps families growing in the entire world.

Many people look at marriage to be an achievement while few people take it to be an option.

Besides it being beautiful and loving,a lot are suffering because it ends in tears when divorce is fostered.

Divorce is a very painful thing that can happen even without visualizing it. Alot of woman are affected because they start having a burden of having children with different surnames.

The good news is that, divorce can be reduced by the following steps:
1. Forgiveness. To err is human to forgive is divine. We can choose to forgive our spouses daily and continue to enjoy our marriages.
2. Submitting to each other. Most people think submission in marriage is a weakness but what they don't know is that it yields postive energy and makes marriage workable.
3. Tolerance. When you tolerate your partner's shortcomings you're communicating that you're also not perfect and it gives a sense of belonging.
4. Praying together. There is power in a couple that prays together. It doesn't matter the religion you belong to but worshiping together brings about an atmosphere that bonds souls together.
5. Avoiding sharing your misunderstandings to family and friends. Most people start to contemplate divorce when they hear their family and friends saying they are going through a lot in their marriages. If you keep your issues away from family and friends,you will be surprised how you will manage to sort them out and move on without receiving wrong advise.
6. Take self introspection. When a misunderstanding come between partners,it's important for both parties to pause and think deep with all honest and ask themselves a very honest question ( how did I contribute to the misunderstanding?) When that is answered within yourself in truth then you will discover that both parties will be willing to apologize and move on.
7. Avoiding unrealistic expectations. Marriage is a bed of roses and thorns because sometimes good things will happen and you will celebrate together, sometimes bad things will happen and that's where you need to be careful not to finger point each other but to comfort and strengthen each other.
8. Seek Marital wisdom from knowledgeable people. Not every grey hair is a reservoir of wisdom. Some people grow old with no wisdom while some can be young but we'll informed.we need to check the emotional intelligence of a person before we entrust them with our marital issues.
9. Take random dates. Marriage becomes exhausting when you just do the normal routine everyday hence making it to be come boring. Remember that going on a date ignites the love fire in a home. It is important once a while to leave everything behind and go out to chill together as a couple.
10. Keep reminding each other how special you are. Most couples easily fall out of love because they hardly affirm the love they have for each other and take it for granted that as long as we are together nothing can separate us. 

Australia banned social media for kids, African countries have something to learn here

They banned social media for kids under 16.

Not next year.

Not gradually.

Not with warnings.

The day the law passed, child accounts under 16 were deleted across multiple social media platforms.

Australia banned social media

Gone.

Think about that.

Years of posts.

Group chats.

Followers.

Digital identities.

Erased overnight.

Supporters say this is long overdue.

Kids’ mental health is collapsing.

Attention spans are wrecked.

Anxiety and depression are skyrocketing.

Critics say it’s government overreach.

That parents should decide.

That enforcement is messy.

That this opens the door to more control.

But here’s the uncomfortable truth.

For the first time, a country didn’t ask Big Tech nicely.

They didn’t rely on parental settings.

They didn’t pretend age limits work.

They enforced it.

Whether you love it or hate it, this isn’t theoretical anymore.

Australia drew a line.

And now the rest of the world gets to argue about whether that line should exist at all.